Dear Boba, Don’t quit. When things go wrong as they sometimes will, when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh, when care is pressing you down a bit, rest if…

Dear Boba, I read a quote the other day, “Forget inspiration, habit is more dependable.” Octvia Butler Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not.Habit will help you finish and polish your stories, inspiration won’t. It made me think about how long I sat in the waiting room waiting for inspiration to show up before I even tried when in reality, I just needed to commit to one small thing each day.

Dear Boba, For the days when doubt creeps in, I’m proud of us for choosing courage and curiosity over comfort and complacency. Sure, we could choose the career path where you would have traded your sanity for a salary or the relationship that was good on tape, but a betrayal…

Dear Boba, I am one of those people who, if something happens that hurts, I typically try to convince myself very quickly that I’m over it, but the reality is things stick, things hurt, and in my humanity things take time to heal. Lately, I have been trying to focus through a lot of my feelings, and I’ve been getting frustrated because I thought I would be over it by now, but I’m not. It made me realize that healing is not an event, but actually a practice and an experience that you have to be willing to show up for, both willing and intentional each day to move through what’s been triggerring.

Dear Boba, At the start of this year, I tasked myself to describe who I was without using words related to my strength, my resilience, my adaptability, or my hardwork. And what was only a few minutes, though, feeling like a lifetime. …

Dear Boba, I never had a problem with standing out, may be because I had never known what it felt like to really fit in. So somewhere along the journey, I felt the quiet confidence to stand out on my own, to learn to be okay with being judged, with…

Dear Boba, “I don’t need anyone” I have repeated the same four words to myself after every rejection, disappointment, and heartbreak, after every experience of picking up my many broken pieces and tending to all of my own bruises. “I don’t need anyone” After the fear of vulnerability sneaks in…

Dear Boba, You were told growing up; You are really mature for your years. You’re so wise beyond your years. Oh my God, you’re such an old soul. I used to feel so proud of being told that, for being a little above the maturity for my age and being…

Dear Boba, I have spent most of my life comparing myself to everything and everyone that existed outside my own being. As a firstborn child, I took it upon myself to source spaces to compare. …